I’ve been in New York City for short time; August 10, 2011. Being that I am from Indiana, I had all of these ideas about myself as I relate to New York City. Adjusting has been hard, learning to trust myself has been a learning process.

Second-guessing

The first mind, in my experience has always been the right one. When ever I have gone with the second-guess, I have always paid dearly for it. Despite this fact, when I came to New York City I found myself second-guessing myself anyway. Why did I do that?

Insecurity

I felt extremely insecure when I got here. I had a belief that because I talked different (slow) and was from Indiana, I was slower than the average New Yorker. I felt that I lack the street smarts; I perceived I needed to survive in New York. Because of that limiting belief, I made many mistakes.

Believing as I did, did not make me make better decisions. Instead, I made a few mistakes. Okay I made many mistakes.

Your full potential self is the you with out your limiting beliefs. Such limiting beliefs as: I’m too short or too fat. I don’t have this or that.

Your full potential self knows they he/she can do anything, be anything and have any thing. And the full potential self usually speaks to you first. This is your first mind.

Trusting yourself does not mean you will not make any mistakes. But you will make less mistakes and live a more rewarding life.

1.      To thy own self be true

2.      What do you want?

3.      What’s stopping you?

I love my hair. But for the longest time, I believed that black here could not grow like other races. That was because I not understand how to make it grow. Here is always growing so the key to growing it long is to prevent breakage.

Desire works the same way. You have to understand what is stopping that desire from manifesting. Once I understood what was limiting my hair growth, I extracted the goals of limits from my hair care.

1.      To thy own self be true. I have kinky coily hair.

2.      What do you want? I want long healthy hair.

3.      What is stopping you? Breakage

4.      Stop breakage.

5.      Achieve goal. Long hair

This principle works the same for everything. But maybe you needed one more example.

You want to expand their customer base for your business to include more African-American customers.

1.      To thy own self be true. You have X amount of customers.

2.      What do you want? You want more African-American customers.

3.      What is stopping you? You lack the right type of marketing.

4.      Market for the African-American consumer.

5.      Achieve Goal. Get more African American customers.

Most of the time what is stopping us from reaching our goal is us. When you apply the same formula to the thoughts that travel in your mind you will understand how to get what you want every time.